Taking Control of your Table - Dinnertime Questions

Is it just me or is dinner time a traditionally stressful time of day during the week?

A lot of times during dinner I feel like I do sometimes on Sunday when I'm sitting at church thinking about what we are going to eat at lunch (sorry it's true sometimes) - I'm not present! I am physically, but mentally I am totally somewhere else. During dinner, I'm usually thinking about all the things I wanted to get done before dinner so I could relax after dinner, but I didn't get them done, so I can't relax. I CAN'T RELAX!!!!! Ok, so that is a little dramatic, but it's kind of true.

So, tonight we tried something different at dinner. I asked my sweet, sweet husband some questions. Not just the regular "How was your day?" because I am pretty sure I know the answer to that one. :)

I asked these four questions --- in an effort to be more present and more involved. And it worked. I felt very present and had a wonderful conversation with Chef Husband (who made delicious BACON BURGERS, I die).

1. What was something good that happened today?

2. What was something bad that happened today?

3. What was something that was funny?

4. What was something that you were thankful for?

These exact questions might not be for you and your family. Maybe you just want to ask one, maybe you want to ask something different, but think of a couple of questions and ask them, the same ones, every night, so dinner turns into what it used to be, a time where families are together and talking to one another about their day.

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